Mommy's Friends

As mother’s we have very few friends. Usually your mother, sister, aunt, neighbor, or cousin becomes your closest friend. Because a mother’s job NEVER ends our maternal instincts kick in AND we become programmed (almost like robots) with duties that we ensure to our last breath of the day are done! You see how crazy this sounds, but its truth! Our “motherly duties” consume us so much to the point where we neglect ourselves and our social lives. Yes, there is social media, but come on mommy I’m not talking about NEW STATUS UPDATES OR A NEW PICTURE OF YOURSELF/KIDS! Come on this is not how you socialize or is it?! I’m talking about the old fashioned “real” way of socializing; hanging out with your girl-friends, being silly, laughing, playing and enjoying the moment. And don’t give that age old excuse of “I only hang out with guys!” GET REAL~ Women need other women to talk to.You don’t have to have only married friends because you are married! Don’t get me wrong, having other married couples as friends is a lot of fun, but in most cases that’s unreal because all of your friends are not going to be married and there is nothing wrong with befriending or keeping your single girl-friends.  *BECAUSE we all know as we get married and have children that single friend becomes our lifeline to the outside world*

We need other women in our lives to share our lives with, to talk to, and to share our feelings and experiences with. Girl time is an outlet for us, just as playing ball or exercising can serve as an outlet for our men. We love to talk so what’s so wrong with allowing yourself a little “girl time?” Stop for a second and think about it… When is the last time you’ve hung out with your girl-friend? When is the last time you’ve had a mimosa or a margarita with your girl-friend? When is the last time you truly took your mind off of “mommy duties” and enjoyed the moment with your girl-friend? If it’s been months, call your girl up and make a date. Stick to that date no matter what happens at home… keep your scheduled “girl time” scheduled. DO NOT CANCEL!!!!!!  Baby cakes will be okay at home with the kids for a few hours. LOL, granted when you get back home your place will be a mess and the kids will probably not have eaten anything besides junk food, BUT at least mommy has had a fantastic time catching up on all things girlie!

So mommy’s I am saying this to say we need each other. No one understands what you are going through, how you are feeling, or exactly what you mean BETTER than she. WOMEN NEED WOMEN, PERIOD! Our friendship with each other is so much more than we know. We are examples to our daughters of how to maintain healthy friendships, with other women. We are examples to our sons of how nurturing women are with one another. Our love and loyalty for one another can be an example to our spouse of what kind of woman he has. For us (women) the love and loyalty that we display in our friendships is not going to be much different than the love and loyalty that we display in our relationships. We are loyal, loving, nurturing creatures! This is simply the way GOD created us to be. So demand more girl time, put the broom down, and pick up the phone. Call your girl-friend and save the date! Know this time is precious, she needs you in her life and you need her in your life! 

BECAUSE you are simply a mess without her!

XOXOXO~*kisses~*